Abide... dwell in, live in.

Read today's gospel passage - John 15: 9-17

Please note: This gospel reading is actually the reading assigned in Year B. This was a mix-up in the three-year cycle of readings. Apologies. It should have been the gospel for Year A. In any event, the homily here does correspond to the the text indicated above. One shouldn't get ahead of oneself. 🙁 

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“Abide", that’s a lovely word, I’d say.

 

 I’ve always taken it to mean to dwell in or to live in.

 

When I checked that in my favourite dictionary [Oxford], I was surprised to see that that usage is now considered to be archaic. So, much for the golden years, eh.

 

  1. accept or act in accordance with (a rule, decision, or recommendation).

"I said I would abide by their decision." -- synonyms: comply with, obey, observe, follow, keep to, hold to, conform to,  adhere to, stick to,

stand by, act in accordance with, uphold, heed, accept, go along with, acknowledge, respect, defer to

"He expected everybody to abide by the rules."

 

  1. informal be unable to tolerate (someone or something).

"If there is one thing I cannot abide it is a lack of discipline." -- synonyms: tolerate, bear, stand, put up with, endure, take, countenance;

         

  1. The third case is the archaic one to dwell or live in. (But I don’t see it as archaic.)

 

Jesus tells us a lot about love in today’s gospel passage. He doesn’t speak about falling in love nor about being in love. He talks about loving one another. When it comes to falling in love and being in love, that’s the easier part, I think. A solid model and signpost though for certain … no doubt.

 

Jesus goes beyond those models, not that those models are not important and even wonderful. What a true blessing to be in love and to stay in love. Maybe that’s getting closer to abiding in love but I don’t think Jesus just meant staying in love.

 

I think that way  … because he spoke of his having been loved by his Father and that is exactly how he loves us. And he puts this as his commandment because if we keep his commandment, then we abide in love.

 

He then says simply, “This is my commandment, that you love one another…  as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that a person lays down her/his life for another”. We often see that on cenotaphs for those who gave their lives so that you and I may live in peace. But, where it came from first was the example Jesus set in giving up his life on the cross … also for us.

 

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Jesus says that if we do what he commands we are his friends. He adds that we’re the no longer servants. The same word in Greek (the original language of the gospel) also means “slaves”. He no longer calls us his slaves … but he calls us his friends.

 

Maybe that example helps get closer to understanding the kind of love about which he is talking and which he wants us to model.

 

As the mind wanders sometimes when writing these kinds of things – sometimes productively I might add – a thought came to my mind taking me back many, many years. (I may have told some of you about this in the past.) I was at a retreat with my fellow seminarians. The retreat was led by an abbot. An abbot, by the way, is the bishop of a monastery. This abbot was from Three Rivers – an Anglican Benedictine monastery called St. George’s Abbey in Three Rivers, Michigan.

 

He was a phenomenal kind of person… as we noticed the elision of the words father and abbot, we very fondly nicknamed him Father ”Rabbot” and presented him with a sweat shirt which sported that new title. He was a really good fellow and truly a spiritual person. 

 

Being very honest but also recognizing the basic innocence of my question, when I had a chance to talk with him personally and individually, I asked him about how we go about loving in the wider world. His response was that – if you have a family – a family is the model of that and that that is the foundation on which to build.

 

I think clearly he was very right and very wise. I see that especially now …many, many years later.

 

The relationship in a loving family is also a model of a very profound kind of friendship. And I connect that with the fact that Jesus calls us no longer slaves but rather he calls us his friends. I also connect that with the observation that a parish – especially a small parish – is like a family.

 

It’s about being really conscious about being friends rather than being slaves to anything … or to anyone. That’s because being a slave to anything is demeaning, restrictive, and deadening.

 

So, I really think it is critical that Jesus calls us friends and not slaves... If you’d like, you can ponder that one on our own to wherever it may lead you through your own wandering in thought and prayer.

 

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And here’s another thing to ponder –  I’ve been pondering it. Then Jesus says to his friends that by abiding in that kind of love, then whatever we ask in his name will be granted by the Father.

 

A remarkable statement.

 

Certainly, that moves into a dimension way beyond any kind of wishing that we may do because we each know that most often what we may merely wish does not actually become true.

 

I wonder if that asking has to do with praying… praying as friends, being in prayer as friends, having an attitude of prayerfulness. It is a matter of not wishing but rather a matter of listening in prayer.

 

I wonder how that would work for a community of faith, in devotion, to set the mind on discerning what to ask and then intentionally engaging in a time together in silence, prayer and in the prayerfulness of listening. I wonder what we’d hear.

 

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Now my wondering… and my wandering of mind may not be productive for you. But maybe it will lead you into your own wondering and wandering… in prayer… and into listening through that silence of prayer.

 

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So, I leave you with this:

 

I just wonder… if that wandering… in the silent listening of prayer… is the very key to what Jesus means when he says “whatever [we] ask the Father in [his] name, may be given to [us.]”

 

Amen.

 

 

4 Comments

  1. Doug Woods on 17 May 2020 at 4:12 PM

    I like “Father Rabbot’s” advice. The family … essentially anything beyond the self, and the family is a quick and easy one to go to. Plus it doesn’t get any more REAL than the family. Outside that unit, the relationships tend not to be so deep, so real, so gritty. So the family is a good litmus test if you want to get a handle on your love.

    • Father Glenn on 17 May 2020 at 8:42 PM

      Yes, well, I now notice the homilist was one year ahead in the Common Lectionary for his text on Easter VI. Hmmm. Still, “Father Rabbot” was right then and now. Thanks for your comments. Glenn 🙂

  2. Kathy Axcell on 17 May 2020 at 9:07 AM

    Thanks, Glenn. Another good message.

    • Glenn Empey on 17 May 2020 at 11:54 AM

      Hi Kathy, Thanks for your feedback and email note to which I will also reply. Have a great day in this fine weather. Blessings to you all,,

      Glenn

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